The courage to ask the decisive question (how do we go on? Where do we go from here?) begins even before the question is asked. Many people believe that if they have landed in a crisis experience, a “decisive moment” in their lives, that it means they have somehow failed. They think that if they land in a hospital, or a therapist’s office, a detox facility, or even jail, that it is a sign of how they performed poorly in life. Of course, this is what we’re trained to believe from a fairly young age in our culture. Those who end up in a vulnerable position are weak.
But I question that. And I hope you do too.
As Dr. Brené Brown has brought to light in her popular Ted talks and books, vulnerability is not the weakness we so often believe it to be, but rather a source of strength, creativity and connection.
When it comes to crisis, while the moment is full of so much tension, I believe the same vulnerability can be accessed, and yes, put to work. This may come as a surprise. How can someone in crisis allow themselves to open up to their inherent vulnerability, and allow themselves to be changed for the better? How can they receive love, direction, and even peace during the stormy chaos of an emergency?
I may not be able to fully answer the question of “how,” but I can without a doubt say, “yes we can.”
My confidence in this comes from experience. I have seen terrible moments of crisis develop into beautiful bright crystalline moments of hope.
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